It’s okay not to know where you are going. It’s okay not to have it all figured out. It really is okay not to know. No matter the age, no matter the maturity when life happens, it’s okay not to know.
Everyone goes through pain differently and your pain is valid, you’re going to be okay, I promise and you’ll look back and smile. It’s okay not to know because life can really get shitty and you won’t know where you’ve found yourself. One minute everything is okay and the next minute you don’t know what is going on, and that’s okay. You don’t have to know what to do next, feel the pain, let it all out. You are not weak for relying on the support of your family and friends, the ones who love you will be there for you and not see you as a burden or make you feel like a burden. It’s okay to be an emotional person, don’t let other people’s definition of a strong person define you because you are strong, not everyone will understand and see what you see or feel what you feel and that’s okay. It’s okay to just want peace, it’s okay to just want happiness. It’s okay to just want to let go, it’s okay to just let it all go, it’s okay to not know how, figure it out one step at a time. You don’t have to be strong for anybody, be strong for you.
What is pain? Pain can be physical, emotional, and mental. Pain is the feeling of discomfort which is a sign of hurt that comes with different situations. Don’t let the pain define you, don’t let anyone invalidate your pain. Pain never really goes away, we just learn to live through it and not let it define who we are. People heal from pain very differently, so define your own path and let it work for you, nobody really understands and it’s okay, no one needs to understand. Do what you need to do to be okay because the show must go on. The show must go on, time waits for no man. No matter what you’re feeling, heartbroken, sick, grieving, broken? Life still has to go on, so pull yourself up and don’t dwell on it!! Because your life has to keep moving forward.
There are so many paths to healing, but let forgiveness be a part of your path. Forgiveness provides you freedom, peace and is always a huge step in healing. Forgiving yourself, forgiving the situation or forgiving whoever you think wronged you or broke you. Forgiveness isn’t for them, it’s for you. Forgiving doesn’t mean you let it happen again or you let them back in, it means you reset yourself, build new boundaries, build new beginnings and heal. Healing is never linear, you have to let yourself feel all the emotions and go through the pain but you will definitely get there. It’s okay to choose you because you have to put you first.
Written by: Aderonke Ojedokun